BondJaneBond ( member #82665) posted at 8:55 PM on Thursday, August 14th, 2025
WELLLLLLLL.....considering that he's still asking you this stupid question of who did you tell when it sounds like his actions have made it pretty publicly known.....I tend to be ornery and I'd probably just say....EVERYONE!!!!! I TOLD EVERYONE ON PLANET EARTH!!!! I PUT IT ON THE JUMBOTRON AT THE STADIUM! EVERYONE KNOWS! And maybe they should because he sounds very arrogant and bullying and needs to be taken down quite a few notches. He can rage all he wants but he brought this completely on himself and if he didn't want people to know about it - he should not have done it. You can't have both things at the same time. Also, if you are afraid of him, check out any women's counseling or abuse lines. I think the police may have these too, if you need any help in that direction. Don't be afraid to seek help. He's the guilty party.....NOT YOU.
Don't give into this bullshit. It sounds like he tries to keep you intimidated and off balance. Are you in individual counseling over this - trauma or counseling having to do with infidelity? You need a rooting section, someone on your side. And if you haven't gone to a lawyer, I would, I'd check out what divorce looks like for you. He just sounds like an unkind bully.
What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. Use anger as a tool and mercy as a balm.
