The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 11:35 PM on Tuesday, June 17th, 2025
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 12:55 AM on Wednesday, June 25th, 2025
If he truly cared about you, he wouldn’t hurt you by asking to come back, he’d be in therapy, trying to figure out what the hell is wrong with him-to mentally and emotionally abuse you.
When my ws left, I knew I didn’t have it in me to survive another betrayal. He asked to come back. I said hell no. If he really wanted to be a better person, he would have gone to IC. Actually he went twice and said it didn’t work for him!! 🤭🤣🤣
One person on this site had her ws ask to come back and she was so strong by then, she said she burst out laughing in his face.
Keep your boundaries up. 👍
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Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
childofcheater ( member #33887) posted at 1:52 AM on Sunday, June 29th, 2025
I think you've made the best choice..honestly I think his reaction to you declining R will tell you all you need to know..he's either going to feel pain and regret and maybe self reflect and improve or he'll explode angrily and reveal his regret was shallow and selfish and not sincere. Either way you win!
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Me: 42 yo, him 41Married 19 years together 233 kids: DD15, DD12, DS9DDay 2/9/12 found suspicious text to coworkerStatus: in R, work in progress
