Just barely surviving right now

One more time?

My wife told me she wanted to make friends. I told her that's fine. She opened a tinder account to make friends in our area since she's not from the USa. She told me one night she wanted to go out with a new friend she made.

dday was 8/17//2023.She was gone for hours and came home drunk out of her mind. when she was gone for 4 hours I texted her and called her non stop telling her it was late and to come home since our kids (2 yo and 4 yo) were crying for her non stop. She waited a while more to come home. When she got home, I asked her if she did something with her new friend., She told me she had sex with this man. I was devastated... he lives around the corner from us too. I also went to high school with his brother and we hated each other...

She is now doing the whole rewrite her past with me thing by saying I treated her terribly. And that he treated her perfectly that one night. She is addicted to marijuana edibles as well. And she tells me she needs them to function.

Yesterday, I told her if she continues to contact him I would divorce her and claim alimony and fight for custody of my kids since she drives around with them in the car with only a permit and she is addicted to weed. Needless to say she flipped out.

Later on that day she told me that she was willing to move to a different city and try therapy only if I let her see him one more time. I asked her if she planned on having sex with him again and she told me she does not know.

I'm at such a loss. I want to walk away and divorce her so bad, but I know my kids life would be shattered to pieces. I wish she would wake up and see how she is destroying her family by being with this man and consuming weed everyday.

Any advice? She refuses to get therapy. Sorry if this was a very bad write up. I'm distraught right now.

18 comments posted: Tuesday, August 29th, 2023