Emotionalaffair24 (original poster new member #85635) posted at 4:18 AM on Monday, October 20th, 2025
I HATE THIS SEASON! Headed into the time they started being friends at work and on Facebook right in front of my face and somehow didn’t notice she was different than the other work people. I somehow now know every post she liked that shows up in my memories and is a trigger but don’t want to delete them bc they are my memories.
I feel like reconciliation is good, we have great days and then we have triggers that set us back but he has been there every moment I needed him. His affair was an emotional affair and we have really dug further into the whys lately. He had a lot of childhood stuff to deal with that he had never said out loud and we broke through that but not an excuse. I feel like we are working through stuff one step at a time. I just want to be happy but I tell him that he ruined our story and I will never understand why but I want it to be a chapter we can move past but I’m not getting there yet.
This post is all over the place and I hope someone feels as unorganized in their thoughts as I do but the original point was I hate affair season but I’m walking through it one day at a time.
Bluefairy ( new member #85471) posted at 7:02 AM on Monday, October 20th, 2025
Sending love and hugs. I totally understand this. Mine started around December time, specifically at the works "Christmas do" . She was all over him in front of my eyes and then the fb stuff started. Then my suspicions of her started and it went from there.
I really get it and am feeling the same. (((Hugs))) xx
[This message edited by Bluefairy at 7:03 AM, Monday, October 20th]
Trying to reconcile- early days - D Day July 2025.
Me BS (F)
WH EA. Together 12 years.
Asterisk ( member #86331) posted at 7:06 AM on Monday, October 20th, 2025
Emotionalaffair24,
Welcome here, we all know this is a site that none of us thought we’d have reason to be involved. But it is a place of help and healing. Sometimes painful sometimes joyous.
I HATE THIS SEASON!
Oh man, you are not alone with this strong statement. Yell it as loud as you need, we will not cover our ears, grow silent, and look away.
Infidelity anniversary’s SUCK! June through Oct are my grin and bear it months. Two more weeks and it becomes just another anniversary I could have done without. If it helps, I found that it gets better as time and healing progress. What was once a three-month trial by fire season is more of a time of less pain and more proud of us time of year.
Hang in their Emotionalaffair24
Asterisk
Wedding:1973
WW's Affair: 1986-1988
D-Day: June 1991
Reconciliation in process for 32 years
Living in a marriage and with a wife that I am proud of: 52 years
Ladybugmaam ( member #69881) posted at 2:06 PM on Monday, October 20th, 2025
Same here. While it has been 7 years now, this is the start of A for me too. I've blocked memories associated with OW on all the socials....but even my own unblocked memories from this time are triggering.
I'm sorry.
EA DD 11/2018
PA DD 2/25/19
One teen son
I am a phoenix.
